My Morning Routine

So, this is a thing, is it? Morning routines, shared? I’m game. Morning has been the one time of day when I can carve out sanity and peacefulness for myself. I am an early riser on purpose so that I can ensure I’m able to get into the right headspace for dealing with life and achieve my goals.

I work from home, and I haven’t had an office outside the home since 1998. It allows me more flexibility in creative pursuits while being a mom.

As a mom, my mornings have ranged from horrifically sleep deprived to amazingly wonderful and centering. Since moving to Mount Shasta, I’ve really committed to keeping a morning routine. I think it’s been critical to my happiness.

What is your morning routine?

For the past 5 years, this is what morning looks like to me, especially in the summer.

5:30 – 6:00 awake. No alarms. Some days it is earlier, rarely later. I go through the first floor of the house and open all of the windows and doors to let fresh, cool air into the house. In the winter, I sleep in until 6:30-7, and my initial activity is starting up the wood stove.

6:00 am – 6:50 am. Write. Before I check emails, check social media, or check analytics/reporting, I check inside to see what wants to come out. I write the following:

  • 5 things for which I am grateful.
  • 5 things I want to accomplish.
  • 5 things that scare me.
  • At a minimum 1,000 words for whichever book, website, or character wants to come out.

I use Day One App as a place to collect my thoughts. I used to use a variety of Word/Pages documents, but it became too cumbersome. Having an app as a one-stop place to collect thoughts privately has worked well.

I write for a number of places online as well as newsletter mailings, so I need to continue generating words as much as possible. The best way to generate words is to write as much as possible. This is a nifty site that encourages making writing a daily habit.

Summer: 7:00 am – 8:30 am. Run, walk, hike. Every single day. I love being out in nature early in the morning, and there is something wonderfully meditative about being alone with my dog hitting the trails (or the pavement) when there is no one else around. After the first 30 minutes, I start to feel a real shift in my energetic state. Walking also helps me mitigate back pain I’ve had for years. If I walk, I have no pain. So, it is a daily ritual.

I get home around 8:30, fire up the coffee, let the cats out of Max’s room, feed the dog. I start reviewing emails and social media about this time. I manage a number of social media presences, but I make sure I am connected with the Big Mind before I connect online. The kids and Mark start getting up around 8:30-9, and my day begins in earnest.

How has your morning routine changed over recent years?

With Claire getting older, my routine has become much more regular. When she was younger, she’d sometimes awaken before me. With young children, routines are out the window. I’m glad they’re older and more able to manage their own needs.

What time do you go to sleep?

I start winding down around 9 and usually asleep by 10. Mark usually stays up much later than me, so I sleep in a different room. There was one point where I had both kids and the dog sleeping in my room; it felt like a huge slumber party every night. Max moved to his own room a few years ago, and now it’s just Claire and the dog. Claire has her own bed, but isn’t quite ready to move to her own room yet.

Do you use an alarm to wake you up in the morning, and if so do you ever hit the snooze button?

Alarms in the wintertime only, and only if the kids need to get to school at a certain time.

How soon after waking up do you have breakfast, and what do you typically have?

I have coffee after my walk/run, usually around 8:30. I don’t actually eat anything until at least 10:30 or 11, and then it’s usually eggs and veggies.

Do you have a morning meditation routine?

Meditation has been a huge practice for me. I feel like my morning walks are meditative in many ways. I don’t listen to much while I am walking other than the sounds around me (no music or podcasts) in quietude, alone.

Do you answer email first thing in the morning, or leave it until later in the day?

Later, and this is important to me. Unless it is absolutely critical, I wait to respond to requests. As someone who has done a lot of client work and has fallen into the trap of hyper responsibility more than I’d like to admit, I find having boundaries of what can be requested of me and when to be incredibly important. I won’t answer anything outside of 9-5 unless it’s important.

I need to ensure that my own flow is established before I can support anyone else’s flow. If I get pulled into too many directions, I end up losing my flow and resenting the people doing the pulling. I try to make clients set appointments for my time rather than just calling on a whim and taking up an unscheduled hour of my time that ends up throwing my entire day out of whack.

That being said, I really like talking to people. It just throws my entire morning off.

Do you use any apps or products to enhance your sleep or morning routine?

I’m one of those freaks who sleeps with a fan. Because Claire was such a light sleeper when she was a baby (any by light sleeper, I mean not much of a sleeper at all), I started using a fan to keep the noise at a minimum. Now neither of us can sleep without a fan. If I do need to set an alarm, I use Rise. It makes waking up on someone else’s schedule a little less unpleasant.

What are your most important tasks in the morning?

Getting centered, getting moving, getting into a positive mindset. From there, I can handle just about anything (and often have to).

What and when is your first drink in the morning?

Usually coffee, sometimes water. I always have coffee. I am a big fan of Hypnotic Buzz Deep Trance Blend.

Do you also follow this routine on weekends, or do you change some steps?

I follow this routine every day, except on Saturday I allow more social media for non-work-related activities.

On days you’re not settled in your home, are you able to adapt your routine to fit in with a different environment?

If I am traveling, I am usually traveling with kids in a hotel. Getting time for myself isn’t quite as easy, but I seem to manage.

What do you do if you fail to follow your morning routine, and how does this influence the rest of your day?

This weekend, for example, I was not able to get my exercise in nor was I able to write much. But I managed. The key, in my experience, is to make the morning routine as habitual and as pleasant as possible so that when it doesn’t quite go as planned, it’s easy to get back into the routine.

 

Say Yes to Everything

I was sitting in my office coding a web site when the call came in. It wasn’t very good news. In fact, it was the opposite of what I wanted to hear.

I wanted to tell the person their offer was unacceptable. But a memory came back to me.

Without thinking, I said “Yes.”

Gulp. I said yes to something I didn’t want. Then I said, “And…” and I told them what I did want.

It seems contradictory. But it wasn’t really. It was the epitome of win-win. They got what they wanted, and I got what I wanted. And what I wanted made the “Yes” totally worth it.

What was the memory? Read on…

Can you say “Yes” all the time? Yes. Yes, you can.

Can you honestly say “yes” to everything that shows up in your life? How about IRS Audits? (I did.) How about saying YES to not meeting a deadline, breaking a promise, or even a crossed boundary? Yes.

Not only can you say yes all the time. Here’s why you should say yes all the time.

Yes is the only way to creatively manifest what you want.

Improvisation Class

When I lived in Chicago, I took an improv training at Second City. As you may know, Second City is a comedy center of the world, a place where some of the most famous faces of comedy have trained. I didn’t want to go into comedy or even acting, but I did want to play and have fun.

One of the things I learned was an exercise called “Yes, and…” The rule was you couldn’t say no to the person you were improvising with. You could only say “yes, and…” You had to say yes to whatever showed up in your reality, and then add something to it. Even if what showed up was the other person saying, “You are a giraffe.” The rules meant that you had to say, “yes, and…” You had to dig deep, often, even allow something even more bizarre to come out of your mouth. You had to add to what was already there.

If you’ve ever experienced this either as a spectator or participant, you know how hilarious it can be.

Saying “yes” to the absurd opened up creativity. You couldn’t stop what was happening by saying no. You had to creatively move with the energy of the moment. You had to work with whatever showed up. It took us to some pretty funny and outlandish places. It was like a giant brainstorming whiteboard where every idea was valid, even if the idea was completely ridiculous.

Years later, I’m finding this exercise more useful than ever. I’m seeing how it works with everything in life… in all manifestation. Even when what shows up is completely out of the range of desirable, you still have to say yes to it. The key, though, is the magic “AND.”

Aren’t we all just improving anyway? Something shows up in the improvisation of your life, and you have to roll with it.

When the IRS audit showed up in my life, I couldn’t phone in a “no thank you.” I had to answer it. I had to roll with it. I had to say “Yes. I’ll answer your audit.” My creativity led me to say, “And, here’s my enrolled agent who will be facilitating this whole process.” That ended up being not only good for the audit, but good for my life. My enrolled agent has been one of my favorite people here in Mount Shasta, and she’s helped me with a lot more than accounting and audits. She’s amazing. So my “yes, and…” became a win-win for everyone involved. Even the government.

What you resist persists
When I helped my good friend George Cockcroft (also known as Luke Rhinehart) get The Book of est ready for reprinting, I learned  as much through the process as I had gotten things done. One of the exercises in The Book of est showed exactly how what we resist persists.

The participant had a headache. The trainer takes the person into fully experiencing the headache. Not just assigning words or metaphors or labels, but really getting into the experience of the headache. Magically, or not so magically, the headache disappears.

Everything that shows up in your life is there as a stepping stone to somewhere else. If you resist the stepping stone, it persists until you get it. If you don’t get it, it shows up somewhere else until you’re ready to get it. It keeps knocking on the door until you’re ready.

The Magical “AND”

You see, “Yes, and…” opens up the creative process. We are creative creatures. We are meant to get in the flow of things, we are meant to create, build, and we are meant to move things around. We are meant to add to our communities, we are meant to give to others, we are meant to be a part of something more than what we are.

I’ve been using “Yes, and…” more and more frequently in situations where I would normally say no or resist. It requires:

  • I stay very attuned to who I am
  • Honor my own boundaries
  • Stay very present with where I am
  • clean regularly on my beliefs and programming

I often use tools like advanced ho’oponopono as Mark has taught me to do it.

So, here’s an example. I say something. Mark says something in return. He tweaks me a little, because I could take what he’s saying as either passive aggressive or a bit of a cut at me. I could react and say, “Hey that’s not really fair” and defend my boundaries. That’s my typical pattern of reaction, to challenge him to live up to the standards I hold of him. (Unfortunately for Mark, I have really high standards!) But as I’ve tried “Yes, and…” It creates a completely different feeling in my body and mind.

I say, “Yes” to whatever he said, then I add my own creative opinion on it. Sometimes it’s hilarious and comical. Sometimes it gets him tweaked a little. But what it does… it opens us both up in a place of playfulness with whatever has shown up.

Mark tells me that the “Yes, and…” is a NeuroLinguistic Programming technique. As we get older, we get stuck in either/or type of thinking. We get locked into judgments and beliefs in black and white thinking about what is true, and it locks us from finding creative tools to move beyond stuck thinking and stuck experiences. We think we’ve got it all figured out. And as Mark Twain said, “It ain’t what you don’t know that gets you into trouble. It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so.”

What goes after “and?”

Life is improvisation. As soon as we think we have it all figured out, life throws something unusual into the mix. All of a sudden, someone is calling us a giraffe, and this time they really mean it. We have to take what shows up, and we have to work with it.

We have to create.

We have to dig deep and open up the whiteboard of our reality and allow something new to come into our experience.

It might not make sense. It will often NOT make sense. But it sure will be a lot more interesting.

 

Magical Bubble of Experience

With Max at his dad’s for the weekend, and Mark training in Arizona, Claire has been rather dismayed that she’s “stuck home with mom.” I know, I’m so awful… the woman who feeds her, nurtures her, reads to her, and takes her all over creation to explore.

So I’ve made an extra effort to take her places while her dad and brother are away. We went to the Science Works museum in Ashland, Oregon. She LOVES this place, and for a small town like Ashland, it’s a great kid’s museum. I consider myself a connoisseur of kid’s museums, having lived and traveled all over the place with my kids.

My favorite is San Jose’s Children’s Discovery Museum, but I’ve only been there when it was crushed and overwhelmed with the and desperate, tired faces of parents on a rainy day a few days after Christmas. I hope to go soon when it is less overwhelmed with people.

Exhibit A: Happy Claire

So, Sunday was an interesting day. First, Claire was happy (see Exhibit A) to be there. But really odd things were happening. We’d end up at certain exhibits by ourselves, and it was almost as if there was a force outside of us that was doing strange yet meaningful things. A pendulum dropping sand that made an image of a heart. A ball that defied gravity to bop Claire right on the head…. twice. A heart image showing up for a moment in a bubble. Bubbles that would form perfect unmoving spheres for a moment then pop.

After, Claire insisted on going to lunch at Grilla Bites. I tried to encourage her to think of somewhere else because parking can be tricky in that area of downtown Ashland. But she insisted, and I like the restaurant, so we went there. Parking was my concern… and we ended up with a spot directly in front of the restaurant. It’s rare to get a spot in that area of Ashland, even more odd that it was directly in front of the restaurant.

These were small signs, but signs nonetheless. They were reminders that we live in a magical universe, and that if we are open to experience miracles, they show up. The additional message was to move this experience from the bubble of a day at the kid’s museum and begin applying that knowledge elsewhere.

There are things in my external environment that I must deal with. Accounting, bleh, and cleaning, and other people’s issues imposing on my reality. And the message I got loud and clear was that it is all me.

I was reminded of that this morning again when a friend said she wished that someone would do something differently. She wanted to experience support from a partner rather than having to be the supporter.

I thought to myself how I had experienced that same emotion. I experienced it as frustration without ever making it to “what if it could be different.” I finally started realizing that it is all me, my experience is all my own, and if I want something to be different, I need to make that change happen myself.

As I support myself emotionally and spiritually, reconnecting with my own inner connection to All That Is, the support I give myself becomes mirrored by my own experience in my external world.

I have had to make some changes lately in my experience, and part of it was establishment of effective boundaries of what is allowed and acceptable in my reality.

We are not victims to our external world. If something isn’t working the way we like, the first step is moving from anger and frustration into the knowledge that it is all us, that others are playing roles so that we may open to the knowledge that it really is all us.

All the world’s a stage, and we are merely players.

Understanding others’ roles in our lives deflates the emotional charge. It allows us to open and allow them to be who they really are rather than just being a player in our drama. And it allows us to say what if it could be different…. and then begin to create that.

The magical experience I had with Claire this weekend was a small microcosm of magic. What it taught me is that the rest of reality is also a magical place where miracles can happen every day… if only I open to them.

 

Excelling During Turbulent Times

Last year, I wrote a post on Mark’s blog about surviving the shift. I’ve been reminded that we’re still in the midst of some pretty amazing, big changes in how consciousness operates in physical reality. The shift isn’t over. In fact, I think it’s accelerating.

My focus on the shift has changed. Instead of thinking about how to survive the shift, now I’m thinking about how I can excel during the shift.

The key to excelling during the shift is inside you.

Wealth is about perspective

My grandfather worked for IBM during the great depression. While I never met him (he died before I was born), the story goes that he made quite a bit of money during one of the most turbulent times in American history. He also was an entrepreneur, and created a business perfectly situated to take advantage of the growth of manufacturing in post-WW2 Rockford, Illinois.

My grandfather’s success came from being forward thinking, watching trends, and acting upon them. He ensured that he was well positioned to make money during times when others were suffering.

Wealth can be experienced during any time, no matter what circumstances surround you.

Some of the most amazing inventions our world has ever known are happening right now. Yes, even though the economy is shaky, even though we’re learning of severe improprieties in our financial system (that continue unabated), and… well, you get the picture. There’s a LOT Of unrest right now, financially, politically, globally, environmentally, etc.

No matter where you look, you can find something significantly wrong.

Where do you place your attention?

Mark asked me an important question yesterday, a question that has a lot of power.

You see, I unwittingly found myself in a situation in which I was embroiled in drama. One person was being overly dramatic, so I tried to diffuse a situation. Unfortunately, my efforts only created more drama. I really should have known better. I approached the issue like a problem to be solved rather than asking “does this problem need my solving.”

The resultant irritation from allowing myself to be put in that situation was messing up an otherwise good day.

When I mentioned what had happened and how it made me feel, he asked me if my dog was irritating. Is the beautiful mountain view and Shasta summer weather irritating me? Is my pinky finger irritating?

Where are you placing your attention? It is impossible that your whole day is ruined by something that, in the grand scheme of things, is but a pinhead of focus. Yet your attention makes it feel much larger than it really is.

Managing your focus and your attention is the key to excelling during difficult times. If you focus on what’s wrong, you end up magnifying it in your experience. Even if the worst of the worst is happening, there are still elements of your experience that are okay. And there are other elements of your experience that are beyond okay, there are elements that are downright amazing.

The thought-process-interrupt happens when you take control of your focus and attention and bring it within your body.

Our minds, our ego-self, is very good at finding out what is wrong with an experience. That is your ego’s job, to find something wrong and protect you from it. But, as you know, letting the ego run the show is detrimental to our well-being.

By managing focus away from ego perception and centering ourselves in heart/gut/body based focus, we expand our awareness, sharpen our focus, and manage our attention so that we have a more realistic view of reality.

This managed focus is the key to excelling during change. Actually, it is becoming a prerequisite to managing our experience as this shift is happening.

Manifesting reality is becoming increasingly easy. Time constructs are becoming more malleable. And because of this, we are being asked to become more expert manifesters of reality.

How to manifest during challenging times

Challenging times do nothing more than sharpen your awareness. When times are easy and good, we have less of a demand on our energy and time. Challenge requires us to either step up to the plate or fall apart. Sometimes we do a little of both. And sometimes the vulnerability of falling apart makes stepping up to the plate a little easier. The vulnerability gives us the ability to see things differently, our values are sharpened, and our focus becomes more intent.

For example, if you have perfect health, do you eat donuts for breakfast? Maybe not every day, but one day of donuts isn’t going to affect you very much. If you are going through a health challenge or a disease, do you eat donuts for breakfast? Or are you instead focused on gaining as much nutrition as possible to support your health and heal your body?

Challenge sharpens focus.

The challenges of our world are giving us an opportunity to sharpen our focus, to set our intentions, and to step up to the plate in ways we never did before. It is happening globally as we deal with all sorts of environmental, political, and financial challenges.

And it is happening within you. You are being asked to sharpen your focus, pay attention, and manage your attention.

Within you are solutions. You have everything that you need within yourself to heal your life, your body, your finances, and your experience. Fall apart if you need to, but then sharpen your focus and move through the challenge, reshaping your life into what you want it to be. As you do this, as we ALL do this, we begin to shape our collective lives into the world and experience we want it to be.

See, now this is the spot where most internet marketers would say “and I have a product for that!” Which we do, hahaha, but you can easily do this yourself by becoming more mindful, by exercising your attention, by paying attention to your integrating dream state, and by expanding your understanding of who you really are.

You can also use Mind Power for Free to learn how to manage your attention and gain control of your mind.

You are more than you think you are. By claiming that, affirming it, and welcoming it, you will excel in the shifting sands of our experience. You will align with the larger part of who you are, allow the facade to fall apart, and recreate a life that you have always dreamed of.

You may also want to read:

Riding the Waves (at Mark’s blog)

Surviving the Shift (at Mark’s blog)

 

Mindfulness for Busy Moms

I am a big advocate of meditation as a method of clearing unproductive thoughts. Very rarely do helpful things happen in the mind, but meditation is the best tool for clearing those unhelpful thoughts so that more productive ones can come forth.

“The mind is a terrible master, but a wonderful servant.”

As you watch your thoughts, you’ll notice some patterns. Some thoughts are about the past. Some thoughts are about the future.

Very rarely, you will have a thought that is helpful in the here and now. And those productive thoughts seem to creep in when you’re focusing your mind on something else. Productive, inspired thoughts are often a result of meditation. And honestly, those inspired thoughts often begin as a feeling rather than a thought.

As a mom, I very rarely have an hour to myself to meditate. There are many demands on my time, but I make a conscious attempt to quiet my mind and tap into the wisdom of my body every day. Here are some ways I do it, even though I am busier than the proverbial one-legged man.

1. Use your breath. The breath is powerful. It is the one constant, the one part of your being that you cannot quiet. It also mirrors the flux of the universe… one moment we are here, the next moment we are not. We are creating and re-creating our experience in every instant.

The breath does not occur in the mind; it occurs in our chest, nearest our heart. The breath is the reminder that our heart has its own wisdom, its own power, and it is central to our being. As you breathe in, bring your focus into your body, into your heart, into the space where the magic occurs.

2. Use movement. Movement activates the wisdom in your body. Your mind does not have to calculate or computer what the next step should look like, you just do it. And as your mind is given less to do, the body’s wisdom takes over. A “walking meditation,” especially in nature, can lessen the wandering thoughts and allow the inspiration of the moment to come through your body’s other wisdom centers.

When coupled with awareness of your breath, the increased awareness within your body revitalizes your beingness to tap into the magical space.

3. Spend more time with mindful beings. Be more dog-like. Cat like, if you prefer. Deer like, if you want. Childlike, even. The animals in our world are not plagued with thoughts of the past or the future. They also have memories and patterns, but they are in the here and now more than anyone I have encountered.

Of course, you have been gifted with creative abilities far beyond the animals, but to master your animal nature is not to eschew it. To master your animal nature, you learn to use that nature so that you can hone your creative abilities. Cultivating mindfulness so that it is useful to you is mastering your nature.

4. Get out into nature. The natural world is full of peaceful, heart-centered reminders of your physical body, quieting the mind. A walk in nature with a couple of canine friends is the perfect antidote to an overactive mind. Running water, rustling leaves, warm sunshine, and green plants everywhere remind us of the physical world, grounding us in our bodies. Green is the color of the heart chakra, the center of your being where your deeper connection to the wider consciousness of All That Is becomes much more apparent.

Max and Riley play in the stream in the meadow.

Bring your children with you. There is a creek running through our neighborhood. I grab the children, the dog, a neighbor’s dog, and head to the creek. The dogs and kids splash in the water. And I contemplate. I breathe. I stretch, and sometimes I play in the water, too. Time seems to fly as we’re there. It becomes very easy for me to let go of all of the things I need to do and just be.

5. Do chores. I’ve got plenty of those. I use the mindless activities of washing dishes, cleaning the house, and gardening as meditation time as well. Repetitive activities are a good time to clear your mind of all thoughts while going through the motions of “chopping wood and carrying water.”

Why Cultivate Mindfulness?

Mindfulness has enormous benefit. It reduces stress, which creates greater harmony in all areas of your life including your physical and mental health. It also opens you to the deeper part of yourself where inspiration resides.

It allows your spiritual energy to flow. It brings ideas, peace, wisdom, greater patience, and a higher propensity to see your world and your self much more clearly.

Scientists beginning to explore the benefits of meditation and mindfulness are showing that it even rewires your brain to make the benefits of a five minute meditation session last much longer.

Meditation and Mindfulness are Important to Conscious Creation

You cannot create what you want until you are clear. If you are thinking about the past, you are trapped in old patterns. If you are worrying about the future, you creating a probable future that is shaped by your worries.

Getting clear means clearing the data in your mind. It means tapping into something that is much larger than who you are. It means being open to change, to flowing energy, and to exploring who you are, what you really want, and your inspiration.

Meditation is the clearest, cleanest, and most proven method of getting there.

There is No Perfect Meditation

The goal of mindfulness and meditation is to be able to discern who you really are. It is to learn that you are not your thoughts, you are not your emotions, and you are not the sum of your past. You are here now. You are not your future, either. You are nothing more than who you are as the observer here now.

There are plenty of times to allow that mindfulness in. Supporting the intent to increase mindfulness in your experience with small breaks of meditation when you can. Just like a muscle, your ability to be mindful will grow the more it is used.

 

The Wealth Diet Free on Kindle Today

To celebrate the first day of summer, I’m offering The Wealth Diet for free on Kindle today, June 20, 2012. If you don’t have a Kindle, you can still get the book for free and read it using the free Kindle app on your iPad, your iPhone, Android, or even on your PC or Mac.

I don’t have a Kindle either, but I have an iPad, and I really like the Kindle app on the iPad for reading books. It gives me the ability to read in bed, in the dark, without burning my eyes out or turning on lights. I can choose my fonts. I can customize the experience of reading to my own particular idiosyncrasies. I really appreciate eBook reading, and the devices that make it user friendly. My Kindle library keeps growing. And I really believe in the digital publishing platform, which is why I am offering the Kindle book for free right now.

To get the book, you can go here.

The Wealth Diet Kindle eBook

I’ve added a bunch of free resources to the Kindle book, which you can find in the back of the book. These are videos, audios, and links to resources that can help you clear unconscious beliefs. There is a link for one audio about Inspired Wealth that Mark did for The Wealth Diet experiment that is only available (for the moment) for people who buy The Wealth Diet. When you get your Kindle eBook, you can grab those resources through links in the back of the book.

I hope you have a blessed summer 2012, experiencing more abundance than you can imagine!

 

Redefining the Perfect Life

There is an epidemic of false perfection in America. It is perpetrated by the media, but it is accepted by you. You, like me, fall into guilty pleasures of fantasy that some people have it made, that some people have all the luck, that some people have found “the secret” to living a perfect life. You believe that those living the lifestyles of the rich and famous are somehow wealthier than you.

In order to experience what they have, you must redefine wealth.

Wealth is so much more than money. I’ve had money, I’ve had fancy possessions, and I have had many interactions with those you may consider to be rich and famous.

Last month, I ended up sitting at dinner next to a rich and famous man. The star of many Hollywood movies, if I mentioned his name to you, you would instantly know who he is. You would recognize him on the street. And like many people at the restaurant that night, your words would have fallen silent when he walked into the room.

There was no mistake about it. He was as wealthy as they come.

And he, like many of the rich and famous I have known, was as human as they come.

He does not have the perfect life you might imagine. In fact, I witnessed an argument between him and his wife that positively ruined their dinner. The tension was palpable.

I sent them both much love and compassion as I sat next to them. I imagined their argument as a glowing red ball between them and sent deep feelings of heart-centered love to that glowing red ball in the hopes of dissipating that which divided them that night.

He was fairly down to earth for the level of fame he has experienced. I don’t think he’d tell you he has a perfect life; I think he’d tell you he’s human.

But the machine of marketing will tell you that his life is perfect.

Why the pedestal?

It is my belief that we place other people on pedestals of idolatry because we have been trained to want something more than what we are. It is okay to want things, desire is a good thing. But when we are wanting things that are externally driven versus internally driven, it removes us from our path as conscious creators.

The externally driven, ego-based desire separates you from who you really are. We are shown rich people with their car collections, and then sold a program to help you attract a new car. We are shown fancy new cars and a debt payment plan that enslaves and entraps us. We see a celebrity with the latest fashions and are sent subliminal messages that separate us from our wealth so that we have a piece of cloth.

The pedestal exists to keep you wanting.

Those who keep the pedestal in place are trying to sell you something. I know, shocking. It is absolutely shocking that the marketers of this world are doing what they do… they are using age-old laws of persuasion to create a need within you and their product as the solution to that need.

You can play that game if you want. But when you’re ready to live a life of fulfillment and abundance, you must turn within and start exploring who you are from the inside out. There is no other way.

Every great spiritual teaching of the world has consciousness exploration as a main tenet. We become trained at a young age to look outside. We get lost. And there is no one who can lead you back to your inner wisdom except you.

In my book, The Wealth Diet, I tell you what has worked for me. But you must do your own searching. If you don’t know where to start, there are resources that can help. I have shared a few.

In The Wealth Diet, there are 28 exercises to help you find your unique, internally driven desire. The internally driven desire is who you really are. It is being the artist instead of the accountant, it is being driving the car you really like instead of the status symbol. It is having more than enough money to do what you want, it is having miracles of abundance come your way without having to sacrifice your integrity for them.

It is no coincidence that day one of The Wealth Diet asks you to step away from the media that insidiously separates you from your internal desire.

What is the Perfect Life?

If perfection is being airbrushed on the pages of a magazine, it doesn’t exist. But if perfection is attuning to your heart and living your life’s desires, then there is a perfect life that is all your own.

Wealth is inside of you. It is in your heart, your dreams, and your inner desires. It is in the plan your soul made when you decided to exist in this earthly arena.

We have been distracted for too long by the glitter, the sizzle, and the falsehood. It has created a society of unsustainable consumerism that makes the hunger of desire even stronger.

You have all that you need, and you are on the perfect path with your inner guidance as a compass. Go forth and live your perfect life.